Some double standards are ok...right???

Oddly enough, it was discussed in a statistics class I just took that certain double-standards are just ingrained in society. And some of them I honestly don't know whether or not I want them to change.

Maybe it'd help if I shared the discussion...

Our teacher, a statistics professor, told us (the class) that apart of his job as a stats prof. every once in awhile he has to gather...statistics. And being that he doesn't want to get bored while doing it he tries to pick interesting subjects to gather info about. One of the subjects we discussed for many hours was "sexual coercion"

Sexual coercion by definition is being persuaded to do something sexually that you don't really want to do.

Many of us instantly think of some of the darker types of coercion such as rape (threats of violence and such), but the definition is so broad that more can fall into it. Behaviors such as:
-Nagging someone until they give in
-strolling in naked in order to distract your significant other from the game (distinctly a female behavior)
-telling someone that they aren't a real (woman/man) because they won't have sex with you
-threatening to put someone business in the street if they won't have sex with you
-telling some one they don't really love you because they won't have sex
-trying to assure someone that you won't dog them out after you have sex
-trying to assure someone that they won't regret having sex with them (i.e. the sex will be good)
-getting people drunk or intoxicated on drugs
-giving people gifts in order to get sex

I can go on and on.

Now, any of these in the environment of a job are grounds for sexual harassment. So for the purpose of my argument I'm gonna exclude that scenario. Lets say all of these happen outside of the work place.

If a woman nags a man to have sex over and over is that a big problem?
If a woman gets a man drunk with the purpose of getting him loose is that a big problem?

Now what about if a man does those things?

In the class we also tried to come up with a number of behaviors to more specifically define stalking. One of the things that came up out of us doing this was we found that when males were the "offenders" or the people doing the actions that they were taken more seriously then when females do the same thing.

You rarely hear about female getting caught up for vandalizing a car...If a man vandalizes someones property. It's a problem.

If a woman starts showing up at places at unexpected times guys tend not to sweat it. They may even use it to stroke their ego. When a man does it, immediate problem.

If a woman leaves a billion messages on your phone, a man thinks "I'm the shit" and chances are they won't think of taking any action other than blocking their number. When a guy does it, a woman thinks "restraining order"

Shit...even when a woman threatens the life of a man that man rarely takes the threat serious enough to take action...straight up. But if a man does it, its pretty textbook for a woman to call the police on his ass.

Now don't get me wrong at all, I have a sister, and shit even if I didn't have a sister I would more than likely think that these particular realities (the female reactions) are on point. Meaning that if a guy were to do these things to any female I expect them to immediately act in order to protect themselves...but unfortunately, the reality of these reactions, both the womens actions and the mens often ignorant lack of action, means that that it is society general thinks that women are the weaker sex. I'm pretty sure it is this mentality that obstructs women from making advancements in other areas. Is it possible to make strides in one area without the other. I don't know. I do know that I honestly feel a bit of comfort telling my sis to get authorities involved. Don't get it twisted, I've also taught my sis to scrap her way out if she has to, the the reality is that's not gonna work all the time (and scientifically men are physically stronger than women), so it's best to take the steps to avoid the nonsense.

I don't put too much weight behind the strength thing tho. Every class I've ever taken dealing with intellectual subject matter (math, science, history, etc) has been dominated by females. So does that mean that women are intellectually superior? Could be... but if that's the case then you're compelled to ask (with womens' need to fight for equality over the past kajillion years) "is it wise to emphasize strength or intellect?" I personally don't know.

I could go on and on. Hopefully, I sparked some thought in someone other than myself in this one. Feel free to share thoughts opinions, etc...